Set a boundary with in-laws or extended family kindly and clearly — the words to say, a united-front approach with your partner, and a plan for the pushback. Use when asked how to set a boundary with my in-laws, my mother-in-law keeps [X], deal with overbearing family, or what to say to my partner's family. Produces a read on the actual issue, a warm-but-firm script for the specific situation, a partner-alignment plan (the couple presents together), how to hold the line when they push back, and de-escalation so it protects the relationships rather than blowing them up.
“My mother-in-law drops by unannounced constantly — what do I say?”“Help me set a boundary with my in-laws about the kids.”“My partner's family gives nonstop unsolicited advice. How do we handle it?”“How do my partner and I present a united front to their parents?”“What do I say when they guilt-trip me for setting a boundary?”
What to give it
▸The issue — the specific behavior and how often
▸Whose family — your in-laws or your own (affects who should lead)
▸The dynamic — generally warm, tense, or already conflict-ridden
▸Where you and your partner stand — are you aligned, or is your partner conflict-avoidant
▸Your goal — change the behavior while keeping the relationship, or a firmer line
✅ The bar it holds itself to
Every skill in this library self-verifies — these are this skill's own quality checks, straight from its definition.
✓Pinpoints the specific behavior and the change wanted
✓Includes aligning as a couple and who should deliver it
✓Script is warm and firm, without over-apologizing or attacking
✓Provides responses to hold the line against pushback
✓Keeps focus on behavior/future, protecting the relationship
✓Tailored to whose family and the existing dynamic
⚠️ What it refuses to do
**A divided couple** letting the family split them.
**Vague hints** instead of a clear boundary.
**Over-apologizing** so it reads as negotiable.
**Character attacks** that torch the relationship.
**Caving at the first guilt-trip** — no plan to hold the line.
Install
npx pm-claude-skills add --agent claude # or codex · cursor · gemini · hermes
# or one-line MCP (every skill, any client):
claude mcp add pm-skills -- npx -y pm-claude-skills-mcp