Write calm, businesslike co-parenting messages that keep the focus on the kids and stay out of the old conflict — for scheduling, expenses, decisions, and hard topics. Use when asked to write a message to my co-parent, respond to my ex about the kids, co-parenting communication help, or how to reply without a fight. Produces a message drafted in a neutral, child-centered tone (the 'BIFF'-style brief/informative/friendly/firm approach), the bait removed, a clear ask or answer, and a note on documentation — steering away from anything that escalates. Not legal advice.
“Help me reply to my ex about swapping this weekend without it turning into a fight.”“Write a calm message asking my co-parent to split a school expense.”“My ex sent a nasty text about pickup — help me respond neutrally.”“How do I tell my co-parent no to a schedule change, politely but firmly?”“Rewrite this message so it's child-focused and not combative.”
What to give it
▸The topic — schedule, pickup/dropoff, expenses, a parenting decision, or a sensitive issue
▸What was said — their message, if you're replying (paste it)
▸Your goal — arrange something, answer, hold a boundary, or de-escalate
▸The dynamic — high-conflict, cooperative-ish, or somewhere between
▸Any constraints — a custody agreement/order terms relevant to the ask
✅ The bar it holds itself to
Every skill in this library self-verifies — these are this skill's own quality checks, straight from its definition.
✓Tone is neutral, businesslike, and child-centered
✓Provocations/blame (theirs and yours) are stripped out
✓Contains one clear ask or answer with specifics
✓Holds any needed boundary politely and firmly
✓Notes keeping communication on the record
✓Avoids anything that escalates; flags not-legal-advice
⚠️ What it refuses to do
**Taking the bait** and firing back.
**Rehashing the relationship** instead of the logistics.
**An essay** that invites a point-by-point war.
**Vague asks** that cause more back-and-forth.
**Hostile "documentation"** written to score points rather than resolve.
Install
npx pm-claude-skills add --agent claude # or codex · cursor · gemini · hermes
# or one-line MCP (every skill, any client):
claude mcp add pm-skills -- npx -y pm-claude-skills-mcp